Last Updated on March 20, 2018

How many times have you heard the saying, “You can’t out give God”? Yet are you, like me, surprised when you see that truth in action?

A few months ago, I felt moved to start researching another type of therapy for my autistic daughter. The more I learned, the more I became convinced that this would help Rachel learn to interact better with the world. The problem? It was expensive.

My husband shared with his prayer team at work that we were praying about this decision. A few days later, one of his coworkers handed him an envelope and said he and his wife felt led to give this to us for Rachel’s therapy. My husband didn’t want to take it. He brought the envelope home and left it on a shelf. It sat there for a few days before either of us had the guts to open it. I came downstairs one day after bathing the kids to find my husband sitting on the couch and staring at the wall. He didn’t quite look at me when he spoke. “They gave us a third of the money for Rachel’s therapy.”

I sank onto the couch. I’d never expected that much. Tears sprang to my eyes. “What do we do? Should we take it?”

He shrugged. I later called my mother-in-law and told her the story. Her reaction put my heart in the right place. She told me how much joy she and my father-in-law had always experienced giving to others, how marvelous God was to provide in this manner, and this was a sign that we were doing the right thing.

I hung up the phone and had a little prayer time with God. I’d been so wrapped up in my pride, I’d failed to see the bigger picture of how God blesses people through both giving and receiving. I felt so humbled. To my recollection, this couple has never even met Rachel. There are billions of needy people in the world, yet they chose to help Rachel. Furthermore, there are a host of luxuries this couple could have chosen to buy, yet they sacrificed and shared with us. In my thank you to the couple, I said that I hoped that God would someday allow us to give to others in their example.

Just a few weeks later, both of our parents gave us the rest of the money we needed for the first six months of therapy, a sacrifice for all of them, especially considering the media’s fixation with economic crisis. Wow.

In case you are wondering, the therapy we are going to start in addition to Rachel’s speech, occupational, and physical therapy is called Relationship Development Intervention (RDI).

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  1. Jennifer… You don't know me, but I have followed your blog for about 4-5 months now. I have commented a time or two. I too have a daughter with autism. Hearing your frustrations and struggles and your dependence on God has been a blessing for me. But, I must tell you that I have been praying for you and actually considering writing you to tell you how RDI has helped our daughter and how it has truly brought hope for the future along with the promises of God. We have been doing it for almost 4 years now and can't tell you how good it has been for our whole family. In my heart, after our diagnosis, I rejected the behavioral therapies out there because although it might help her look better on the surface, it wasn't going to the heart of things. RDI does… once you get it as a parent and can incorporate into your life, Rachel will start connecting to you in ways you have only dreamed about… It gives her a reason to look at you and reference you for information, for comfort, for assurance, etc.. If you would like to know more about our journey and our consultant experience, etc.. Please feel free to contact me privately at I don't know about your insurance situation, but I was also able to get this covered…
    I don't know how you heard about RDI or how you decided to move forward, but just know that there was someone praying out there without you even knowing and God was working.
    In Him,
    Susan T.

  2. Jennifer Atkins-Gord says:

    The above comment is another testament to your mother-in-law's comment…your therapy decision seems like the right thing.