Last Updated on March 21, 2018
Or are you sick of sex?
I am sick of the enemy deceiving those I love. I take it personally and frankly am not going to take it anymore.
At church, marriage conferences and even with my relatives I am seeing that women are bored, tired, and unconcerned with continuing to pursue growth in sexual intimacy with their husbands.
I think Christian couples should have the best sex on earth! We have a personal relationship with the very creator of sex. Yet, I believe, it is the most misunderstood bonus of marriage.
This misunderstanding of intimacy comes because we just let sex happen and do not become students willing to learn what we need to enhance and grow in intimacy with our spouses.
Sexual intimacy is a gift from God to every married couple for our enjoyment. There are many areas that keep us from experiencing great sex. We are often distracted by our body image; we are ashamed of our shapes. As moms , there is more in our bedrooms that belongs to others in our home and we are too busy to set our stage for this main event. When abuse, dysfunction, or misinformation plagues us, we must learn to shatter old systems and see the truth of sexual intimacy. These areas and so many more hinder us from a fulfilling sex life with our husbands.
I would love to be able to ask every married reader of this blog if they have a satisfying sex life. Then pose the same question to each husband. For the majority, based on the response I have received from the women in my life, sex is alright but not many of us are saying it is great. What’s up with that ?! Our God, who is above all and knows all created everything, including sexual intimacy and it should be ‘mm, mm, good.’
It is time for Christians to once again take ownership over sexual intimacy and allow the world to see authenticity even in our view of sexual intimacy. It’s time for us to take back what the enemy has tried to steal from us… a super sex life.
I wrote SOS: Sick of Sex with every woman I love in mind. I wrote it for women I may not personally know but are in relationships where sexual mediocrity reigns. I wrote it because I believe it is time for Christian women (and men) who enjoy sex to proclaim this with no fear or shame. I wrote it because I believe God did come to give us abundant life in every area.
It is time for Christians to fight against all that the enemy has tried to wrong with sex and bring glory and honor to God every time we are sexually intimate.
Who’s with me?
Editor’s Note: This post and all of our posts regarding intimacy in marriage are not directed to women in abusive relationships. Any woman in an abusive situation should seek pastoral and/or professional help. No one should ever engage in sexual activities that are uncomfortable, painful or demeaning to them.
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Robyn McKelvy has devoted her life to the care and building up of others. In her home, through the church her husband pastors and through years of speaking at Weekend To Remember Get-Away’s around the country as well as countless women’s events. Robyn is the mom of seventeen children, seven in heaven and nine amazing souls here on earth who have received her full attention from the time they were born or grafted into her family. Robyn’s first book SOS – Sick of Sex is in stores now as is her devotional book, “Say IT Loud: Becoming your husband’s personal cheerleader.” Robyn has been a mom for 24 years and married to Ray for over 25 years.
Robyn Says: “Hey all, I am Robyn, a wife, mother, sister, aunt, neice, daughter-in-law, friend and any other title a woman with differing relationships can hold. I pray this blog will bless your socks off and that you will find that you are not alone. I love prayer and watching God in action. HE IS TRULY MORE THAN AMAZING!”