Once after I had my first child, I showed up at my parents’ house with my son’s socks on the wrong feet—you know, the little pictures on the sides were on the inside of his ankles rather than the outside. I’m definitely more creative than detailed, but my precise sister (she’s now a nurse) gave me a little bit of a hard time. I said that I didn’t really care about the socks because I needed to get out the door. She insisted that her kids’ socks would be on the right feet.

So imagine my interest when, five years later, she now has her first child. This child had a cold a couple of weeks ago, and it was reported to me that said sister, tired of running after Kleenex for that incessantly runny nose, took the corner of her baby’s dress and wiped her little nose with it! My mom laughed, “If Janel had done that, you would have had a field day with it!”

Her response was pretty typical of a tired new mommy: “Look at my shirt. I’ve got spit-up here, and snot all over. It’s not like it makes that big of a difference to either one of us anymore.” (But yes, the girl’s socks are always on the right feet. And my sister is a great mom.)

Cost of washing a shirt? Pennies.

Having your sister understand motherhood? Priceless.

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  1. LOL! Hilarious! My friends and family are finally catching up with me and are becoming mommies for the first time and suddenly they are seeing things so much more clearly. They understand NOW why I'm so tired; why my house isn't always in tiptop shape; why sometimes I just don't care if my 3 year old watches Madagascar 2, one more time. You're so right…it IS priceless!
    Thanks for sharing, I'm so glad I'm not alone.

  2. I’m still at the place, with 4 boys 7 and under, where my 4 siblings havent yet had any children but one is on the way for a sister-in-law who has a very romantic idea of children. I’m struggling so much raising my boys and i find it so hard to be around her at this time- simply because i feel so judged and like such a failure because she is so perfect- yet she hasnt even given birth. I know that is crazy and I need more confidence but i do skip corners and i have become so much more relaxed with my 4th than i was with my 1st when i too was so idealistic. i feel like i need to explain myself every second as she looks on in disapproval. she is a novice but so more confident generally than i am. i wonder if she will look back and understand me one day- i sure hope so!! please pray for me! thanks xx

  3. Janel Breitenstein says:

    Sarah, my heart just hurts for you. Thanks for expressing what a lot of us are going through.
    Motherhood was/IS so humbling for me. I feel like wearing a T-shirt that says “I USED TO HAVE IT ALL TOGETHER”. (Maybe on the back I’d put “…and then I had kids. They’re worth it”!)
    When I feel judged like that, one of the verses that’s lifted my head the most has been Galatians 5:1: “It was for freedom that Christ set us free; therefore keep standing firm and do not be subject again to a yoke of slavery.”
    Being a slave to what non-moms think (or other moms!) really trips me up. Especially because I’m usually late, my house is usually dirty (and maybe one or two of my kids), and I’m usually doing something wrong! Motherhood will probably be as eye-opening for your sister as it was for all of us. 🙂
    I will pray for you, Sarah, especially since what you’re going through hits so close to home with me. Again, thanks for being so open. -Janel