Last Updated on March 20, 2018

When I was growing up, my dad used to tell a story that made quite an impression on me. I have never forgotten his words.

He was at the club, playing racquetball with his friend, and in the course of their big match, he twisted his ankle. Later, while he was in the locker room, whining and complaining of the pain shooting through his sore ankle, he got an “in-your-face” wake-up call. In the midst of his whining (as he put it) walked a fellow sweaty club member who proceeded to prepare for a shower by taking off his shoes, his socks, and then his leg … yeah, his whole leg. My dad said that instantly ceased his complaints! He was suddenly given a new way of looking at what God showed him was a minor pain compared to what others had to carry — or wear in this case.

This little story of my dad’s came to my mind during a family dinner conversation last week when the kids were asked who they most admire. Nearly all of my kids said they most admired my dad. When I asked them why, they said,” Because no matter what kind of pain he may suffer with his bad knees and rounds of cancer treatment, he never complains.”

You know, that is a fact; he always sees the best side of things. He is always positive — well, maybe with the exception of politics and paying taxes. Instead of complaining, he simply says, “Oh boy, that smarts!” I can’t help but think about his locker room lesson and the impression that incident made on him, as well as me since I so readily remember him sharing the story with me.

My parents live 1,000 miles away, and they are here as often as they can be; I know their desire is to be around more. However few the number of days of their visit, though, their presence makes a big impact on my children’s lives.

Something we moms need to think about: our actions and words greatly affect those around us, either for good or for evil. We choose how we react to the good and bad in our lives, but we all need to keep in mind little people are noticing.

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  1. Heather, thanks for the wonderful post. Such a great story that reminds us of the importance of perspective. God has really been teaching me that lesson over and over in so many ways. Your dad’s story is a powerful example and I won’t soon forget it! By the way I just have to tell you thank you for being the man “behind the laughter”. We have a couple of Tim’s video’s and our youngest kids who are still at home (15 and 17) and my husband and I often watch it over and over. He makes us cry with laughter – as proverbs says – it is some of the best medicine for the soul! Thank you for your role in his ministry!!! Blessings to you and your family!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  2. Heather thanks for your posting …. But before I go any further, I am happy for you and your family that you are cancer free.

    I am a mom of 3 boys 2 1/2 twins and an 8 month old. I plan on homeschooling, but there are days that I wonder if I would do a good job, especially as I battle daily on keeping my temper at bay….I am going nuts, I too have a husband that's gone a lot and I can go on. I guess perhaps I feel I'm the only mom that screams at their kids. Thanks for reading my post… Sad but hopeful. God bless