1. Hide your past mistakes. Put on an act that you’re perfect and they’re the ones with all the problems. (After all if your teens hear what you did in your past, they might want to follow.)
  2. Don’t worry about where they are going and what they are doing. You didn’t want to be hounded at that age. You didn’t want to be asked all those questions. Instead, trust they know how they should act and where they should go.
  3. Don’t worry about them getting a summer job and having to work to make money. Teens are only teens once. They need time to have fun with friends and relax. There will be time to work later. They don’t need to worry about a work ethic now.
  4. Don’t force them to attend church and youth group. Things are already touchy — you have to hound them about homework, about their friends, and about their clothes — don’t make church another thing you hound them about.
  5. Don’t worry about talking to them about sex and purity. You’re their parent, for goodness sake. You don’t want to bring the subject up and have them thinking about you having sex. And you don’t want to think about them in their sexual lives. There are other people more knowledgeable and trained to talk to your teens; leave it to them.
  6. Shelter your teens from the outside world. Kick the television out of your house. Make sure they don’t watch secular movies or listen to secular music. Hide the newspapers, too. Their “world” should only be about your family, God, and your service to Him. They don’t need to learn about all that bad stuff out there. They don’t need to learn to deal with it or make wise media choices.
  7. Tell them, “Do what I say, not what I do.” Make them accept the places you fall short, but train them to do better.
  8. Buy your teens whatever they ask for. That’s your role as a parent—to make your teens happy.
  9. Don’t let your teen get involved in an oversea’s mission trip. There are all types of scary things that happen on those trips, and your first priority is to keep your teen safe.
  10. Don’t become your teens’ sounding board. They’ll need to learn to figure things out on their own in the future, so they might as well start now.
  11. Don’t share with your teen how important God is in your life. A personal relationship with God is personal, and it should stay that way.