Mom Tips to Build Volunteer Kids
You know the old saying, “It is better to give than receive.” For many families, the best gifts they can give is the gift of themselves … through volunteering.
Family volunteering has been an interest to homeschooling advocates for years. Raymond and Dorothy Moore recommend an hour a day of home or community service. Can you imagine how your family (homeschooling or not) could impact the community by volunteering an hour a day? Even an hour a week would add up in the long run! Here’s how to start:
Fit the Activity to the Child
Expose your children to various volunteering opportunities, and then ask them, “What would you like to do?” Give them resources, and then empower them to do it. If your daughter has a lot of energy or your son enjoys cooking, suggest an activity to match.
Work as a Team
“Through volunteer work, families spend quality time together, help others, have fun, communicate and develop family self-esteem,” says Lori Goudreau, manager of the Family Service Program. “Parents can reinforce family values, and kids can share their time and talents, and even acquire new skills.”
“Kids are more likely to stick with an avenue of service if they volunteer beside a parent or grandparent,” my friend Jan Johnson reminded me. Volunteering within the context of their family gives kids the security they need to reach out to others.
When preparing for a volunteer activity, it’s important to know what to expect. Here are some questions to ask:
• Where do we need to go?
• When do we need to be there?
• Who will we report to?
• What are we expected to bring? … and …
• Why is our role important?
Knowing what to expect ahead of time will help children approach their tasks with confidence.
Kids love to know when they’ve done a good job. After volunteering, talk to your child about the experience. Let him or her know how it makes you feel to see him or her acting in such a mature and giving nature. It will be just the thing that will make your child want to do it again.
Value the Lessons They Learn
I have discovered with my own kids that volunteering helped them establish their identity. When my daughter Leslie was 10 years old, she used to baby-sit at our local crisis pregnancy center. In return, she discovered that her caring attitude and helping heart was valuable to many young moms in need. It’s a discovery that has impacted her as she’s grown into a young adult.
“Beyond citizenship, kids can learn so many other life lessons from charity,” adds Kathy Saulitis, director of Kids Care, a national volunteer organization designed specifically for children. “They learn cooperation, tolerance, problem-solving, communication, self-awareness, confidence, respect for life and loyalty.”
And what mom doesn’t want that for her kids?