Song of Solomon 2:15 tells us, “Catch for us, the foxes, the little foxes that ruin or spoil the vineyards.”
I’m not a gardener or an animal expert, but I do know a little bit about foxes. They are cunning, they’re sneaky, they’re sly, and they’re very small. But they cause a lot of damage to vineyards. And most times, the damage in their presence goes unnoticed until it’s a little too late.
The same way the behavior of foxes ruin flourishing vines, the same can be true to the foxes that may be in close proximity to a flourishing marriage. These Little Foxes are the problems and sins that can disturb and even destroy our marriages.
How to Catch the Foxes in Your Marriage
There are a few ways as believers that we can prevent or catch the little foxes that may try to ruin your marriage or your relationship.
1. You and your spouse should both have the desire to want to please and obey the Lord. This means no matter what. When your heart is set on honoring God, there’s just certain things that you’re committed to not doing.
2. Our desire should be to not have anything to do with things that could cause problems between you and your spouse. And if there is something that’s causing a problem, be ready to deal with it or remove it in a timely manner, which often requires compromise and sacrifice on both parts.
3. Prioritize accountability. Probably the most important aspect of marriage for a man is accountability. When a man has true accountability in his life, he leads different. When he has true accountability in his life, he loves different, he behaves different, all ultimately, in a way that’s God honoring. And when we honor God, we ultimately honor our spouse.
For the men out there, if you don’t have true accountability in your life, if you don’t have other men who can call you, who can come by your house and really get in your business, you’re really missing out.
Because when you do have that, your marriage thrives, your relationship thrives. And ultimately it helps you to become who God is calling you as a married man to be.