Wedding Season Worry
Wedding season has arrived! I just read in a community magazine that, ages and ages ago, June became the traditional month for weddings because people took their annual (as in once per year!) bath in May, so they still smelled pretty good in June. Apparently floral bouquets were added to cover the light odor that had grown in the month since the bath.
Seriously. That’s what it said. I had no idea. And I assure you that is not why I got married in June. My husband and I got married in June because he proposed in December, and I said it takes six months to plan a wedding. Voila—June wedding!
Having entered a new season in life where my friends’ children are now getting married (three weddings on the calendar already), I’ve been spending some time thinking about it. And now with a 16-year-old daughter, I am more aware every day that she really is going to grow up.
But it also makes me think about my younger daughter with a physical disability. I’ve mentioned her before. Will there ever be a wedding in her future? Will there ever be a young man who loves God and will overlook my daughter’s physical differences? Who will look at her heart instead of her outward appearance? Or is God’s plan for her to glorify Him as a single woman?
I don’t know the answers to these questions, but I do know that both my daughters will have the protection of their father for as long as they need and desire it, should they not be married. I know that we aim to teach our sons to be responsible men who love God and view marriage and family as a privilege and honor not to be taken lightly. I pray that my children will choose wisely and carefully when it comes to marriage.
I know that God is faithful and can be trusted for the future. I know that His timing is perfect and that He gives us all we need to fulfill His plans for us. I know that He makes all things work for good for those who love Him.
For some women of all ages, disability or not, wedding season will come and go, and it will not be their turn to walk the aisle, and they will wonder why. For all the questions and emotions that are stirred up in seeing others wed, if this is you, your daughter, or your friend, I encourage you to continue trusting God and seeking His plan for the future.
Maybe weddings aren’t an issue, but you have other concerns about the days and years ahead. Uncertainty for yourself or your child. Anxiety for things that may or may not happen. Worry about your marriage or other relationships. God knows all about it! Trust Him. Turn to Him in prayer.
I don’t often read The Message version of the Bible, but I love the way it expresses the soothing words of Philippians that are perfect to conclude my thoughts today:
Don’t fret or worry. Instead of worrying, pray. Let petitions and praises shape your worries into prayers, letting God know your concerns. Before you know it, a sense of God’s wholeness, everything coming together for good, will come and settle you down. It’s wonderful what happens when Christ displaces worry at the center of your life.