The day Tracey’s post on control posted, I was in a control battle myself. It was a different scenario, but Tracey’s transparent story hit home with me!
I was reminded that our precious foster child, “Sweet Pea,” does not belong to us. We parent and love her like she is. She has been in our home a year now, and for the most part, I’ve been able to make most of the decisions for her care. But then I received a call with instructions that I disagreed with. At first I was stunned, and then the anger rolled over me. I asked other foster parents for wisdom. I explained the situation to another caseworker involved. I was so frustrated because I know this child better than anyone else on this earth, and I knew the situation would bring her pain. But the bottom line was that I had to submit.
[pullquote]10“See that you do not look down on one of these little ones. For I tell you that their angels in heaven always see the face of my Father in heaven.” Matthew 18:10 (NIV)[/pullquote]
I was devastated. I was shaking and weepy. If you knew the situation, you would realize that I was making a mountain out of a molehill. I read Tracey’s story and realized that my grief was more over my loss of control than it was out of concern for Sweet Pea. Yes, she would have a difficult time, but she would adjust. But what would I do with my control issue?
It brought me to my knees. Literally. And that is exactly where I needed to be. I gave the situation over to God. While praying, I was reminded that Sweet Pea has her own angel watching over her. She belongs to the Father just like my other three children. He is in control, and I’m not only okay with that, I’m grateful! I may not be able to control what happens in her life, but I can rest in knowing that she is being watched over when I’m not able to watch over her.
Julia DesCarpentrie is passionate about orphan care, adoption and fostering. She has been blessed to live out God’s call on her life in those areas through her work with The CALL (Children of Arkansas Loved for a Lifetime), a foster care church initiative encouraging more Christian families to foster children in need. Julia has been an advocate for the fatherless for 10 years, as both a volunteer and also serving with Hope for Orphans before her work with The CALL. She is also an active volunteer in the community and has served on several community boards. She continues to minister to other mothers and foster/adoptive families through writing and speaking with MomLife Today. Julia is the mom of five children entrusted to her care through birth, adoption and fostering. She and Branden have been married for 16 years.