Last Updated on March 1, 2025
I still remember the first time I realized I needed mom friends. I was rocking my newborn in the early hours of the morning, scrolling through social media, watching other moms go on playdates, share laughs over coffee, and support each other through the highs and lows of motherhood. Meanwhile, I was sitting in my living room, feeling isolated, unsure of myself, and wondering if this was just the way things were going to be.
But deep down, I knew that God didn’t create us to do life alone, and I began praying for friendships that would build me up, encourage me, and help me walk through this season with grace.
Fast forward a few months, and those prayers were answered. But it took some intentional effort, stepping out of my comfort zone, and reminding myself that even as moms, we’re still called to community. If you’re feeling like I did that night, Sis, let me share what I’ve learned about finding friends as a mom.
Why Mom Friends Matter
Motherhood is one of the most rewarding callings, but let’s be real—it’s also exhausting, lonely at times, and downright hard. That’s why we need other moms who get it.
Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 reminds us:
“Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up.”
Mom friends aren’t just people to chat with—they’re women who will pray for you when you’re overwhelmed, celebrate your wins, and bring you a meal when the stomach bug takes down your whole household. They remind you that you’re not alone, and they encourage you to keep seeking God’s strength in every moment of motherhood.
How to find mom friends
Step 1: Pray for Friendships
The first step in finding mom friends? Pray about it. Ask God to bring the right women into your life—friends who will encourage you, challenge you, and point you back to Christ. In Matthew 7:7, Jesus says: “Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you.”
That’s exactly what I did. I asked God to open doors, and He did. But here’s the thing: those friendships didn’t magically appear. I had to be willing to take the next step.
Step 2: Step Out of Your Comfort Zone
Friendships don’t just happen; they’re built. And often, that starts with stepping out of your comfort zone. Here are a few ways to meet other moms:
- Join a Local Mom’s Group or Bible Study: Many churches have mom meetups, women’s ministries, or Bible studies where you can connect with other moms. If you don’t see one, consider starting a group yourself!
- Hang Out Where Moms Are: Go to the park, storytime at the library, or community events. These are great places to strike up a conversation with another mom.
- Say Yes to Invitations: When another mom invites you for coffee, to a playdate, or even to chat in the church nursery, say yes! Friendship often grows in those small moments of connection.
I know it can feel scary to put yourself out there, especially if you’re introverted or have been hurt in the past. But remember, God equips us to do hard things. Take that first step—you never know what God might do with it!
Step 3: Invest in the Friendship
Once you’ve met another mom you connect with, don’t let the busyness of life keep you from nurturing the relationship. Send a quick text to check in, schedule a playdate, or invite her family over for dinner. Friendships take time, but they’re so worth it. Proverbs 27:17 says: “As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.”
You don’t need a huge circle of friends, either. Even one or two solid, faith-filled friendships can make all the difference.
Step 4: Be the Friend You Want to Have
Friendship isn’t just about finding someone to meet your needs—it’s about being that person for someone else. Show up for other moms. Offer encouragement when they’re struggling. Pray for them. Celebrate their wins, and be a shoulder to cry on when things are hard. Galatians 6:2 says: “Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way, you will fulfill the law of Christ.”
Sometimes, being the friend you want to have opens the door to deeper, more meaningful connections.
A Reminder: It’s Never Too Late
Maybe you’re reading this and thinking, But I’ve already missed my chance. I should’ve made friends when my kids were little. Or maybe you’re feeling stuck, wondering if it’s even worth the effort. Let me remind you: it’s never too late to build community. God’s timing is perfect, and He can bring new friendships into your life at any stage.
So, take the leap, Sis. Pray about it, step out in faith, and trust God to provide the community you need. Remember, you’re not just looking for friends—you’re creating a support system rooted in Christ, one that will carry you through the ups and downs of motherhood.
Motherhood wasn’t meant to be done alone. And when you find those women who will walk this road with you, it’s a gift that will bless you in ways you can’t even imagine.
Now go out there and find your tribe, Sis—you’ve got this!