The conversation was about to end.  I was driving cross-country with my young sons.  It was a three-day road trip from Louisiana to Colorado.  I was on the phone with my friend Tracey Eyster.

Just before we hung up, she said, “Remember, Lisa, boys love silly moms.”

It was an interesting thing to say.  I mean, no one had ever said that to me before.  And I have no recollection of ever hearing anyone say that ever.

Boys love silly moms.

In the months that have passed since that road trip, Tracey’s four words of counsel have radically changed the outcome of many days in the Williams home.

For instance…

I was über frustrated one night while trying to get the boys ready for bed.  Exhausted after a long day, I ached for them to quickly brush their teeth and just go to bed.  I was biting my tongue because I wanted to yell at them “HURRY UP!” or whine about how they were frustrating me because it had been a long day and they wouldn’t stop messing around.

Then the words “boys love silly moms” filtered through my thoughts.

So in a very stern voice, I said, “Boys, brush your bed and get into teeth!”  They froze, looked at me with big eyes, and then started giggling.  So did I.

“No, wait, that’s not what I meant.  I meant to say brush your BED and get into TEETH!!”  More giggling.  Sudden cooperation.  The tension that was building in me drained away.  As they finished brushing, we continued the word game of messing up sentences by rearranging nouns.  We snuggled in bed and laughed some more.

It may not work for everyone, but it sure is more fun than being angry, frustrated, or discouraged.  And certainly I’m not talking about being flippant in serious circumstances or when discipline is required.  There are times when silly will work – and times when it won’t.

But just for fun, I’m going to intentionally look for some ways to be silly with my kiddos today.  Want to join me?  Could you share some similar stories in the comments below?  That would be great.  Maybe a little more silly could bring a bouquet of giggles to our homes today.

Much love – Lisa

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