The last few months have been a little hard for me. My kids are both in college and involved in more things. My schedule has changed from revolving around school, meals, and children, to being alone much of the day. It is a hard transition for me. I miss my kids. I miss the structure. I know it is a normal transition in life, and I am thankful that they are doing well. I have been forced to evaluate how I’m going to fill my day.
Since the day I brought my children home from the hospital I have loved being a mom. I have loved being home and caring for my children. The minute you become a mom something happens to your heart. I can remember when they were babies, feeling sad at times because I could already see that with each little change comes a little bit of independence. Independence is a good thing, but can be hard for a mom to watch at times because it is a reminder that one day they will be gone!
A couple of years ago I had a conversation with a young mother. Her little girl had decided she didn’t want to breastfeed anymore. The mom was crying because she was sad that time was over. She apologized for crying and said she felt foolish. Later that day I stopped by her house with flowers and a note. The note read something like this: “I understand more than you realize how hard this is for you. I started crying about 15 years ago and haven’t stopped yet!” (My daughter was 15 years old at the time.)
That’s just what life is like when you are a mom!
So, what do I do with change? How do I face this season? How can you face the change and season you are in?
- Elisabeth Elliot says “We are not doomed to meaninglessness. A loving Purpose is behind it ALL, and a great tenderness even in the fierceness.”
- I think of the hymn “Trust and Obey”… but change the words a little bit! Our goal in life is not to be “HAPPY in Jesus,” but to “glorify God.” I sing it this way: “Trust and obey, for there’s no other way, to GLORIFY GOD but to trust and obey.”
- I pray. “What do you have for me to do today, Lord? Please show me who needs encouragement and who I can serve?”
- I remember the promise that says “I will never leave you nor forsake you. I am with you always.”
- I remember that “it is here, where we happen to be at this moment and not in another place or another time, that we may learn to love Him–even if it seems He is not at work, where His will may seem obscure or frightening… Here and nowhere else is the APPOINTED PLACE. If faith does not go to work HERE, it will not go to work at all.”
- I remember that His grace is sufficient with this “new set of marching orders!” “My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness.” (2 Cor. 12:19)
May we seek and find what God has planned for us today–whatever our season!
What season are you in today?