Tips for Romance
My husband is on Facebook. It was an affront to our 23-year-old daughter when he joined, and she let him know he was “too old” for this modern media format. He was not dissuaded. He is managing it quite well, as opposed to me, and enjoys posting and getting feedback from so many. I haven’t learned to post nearly as often.
The story I want to share is the amazing response he received from a question he posted the week of Valentine’s Day last year. It was, “What is the most romantic thing your spouse has done for you?” The answers were wonderful, varied, and encouraging. Here are a few:
- “He doesn’t stare at other women but makes a point to look away and focus only on me, giving me a smile or a wink. This makes me feel like the most beautiful woman alive.” (Connie)
- “Years ago when we didn’t have a lot, my dear husband took me to a nearby town to spend the day. We had a babysitter for the kids. During the time we were gone, my husband had arranged for his mom to come over and make dinner for us, and she had it warming in the oven. She had set our table with our wedding china. She was gone by the time we got there. … It was really sweet.” (Rose)
- “This may not sound romantic on the front end, but it is to me. After suffering years of infertility, we finally conceived only to later discover that it was an ectopic pregnancy and I would need emergency surgery. In the surgery waiting room, my husband insisted on being with me, even though he was told he couldn’t. He sat with me and held my hand and looked me straight in the eyes and said, “I love you, and I promise you that we are going to be okay.” Infertility can make a woman feel like a failure, but I gained so much security in knowing that God gave me this man who loved me no matter what. I think that’s the most romantic thing a man can do for his wife — he gave me security.” (Heather)
- “My wife writes a daily note sharing something she loves about me. She’s been doing this for more than two years. We’re geographically separated due to my military service. … These notes have been a lifeline to keep me afloat in the deep end of life! Thanks, Honey!” (Matthew)
- “Okay … most people probably won’t find this romantic, but my wife got me a mini-season ticket package to the Houston Astros. She knows my love language.” (Scott)
- “The short version: Sherry and I divorced on the day of our 14th wedding anniversary, went to a Weekend to Remember two months later, and then (here’s the romantic part) got remarried on the porch of the old home we are remodeling together. God is the great redeemer!” (Scott)
There were other great comments — some funny — but overall really encouraging to hear so many varied responses.
I gave my husband a gift he has really enjoyed. He loves to tell the story because it sounds so unromantic and always gets a laugh, which is the point.
But he wanted it. And it’s a real man gift. I gave my husband a chainsaw for Valentine’s Day!