Birds and Bees = Mud and Toes

Last Updated on March 20, 2018

Too often kids learn about “the birds and the bees” through playground sex ed or from the media. Determined to have my 8-year-old daughter learn the facts from me, I began sharing with the help of a book several months ago.  After we read the book she declared it “the most disgusting thing I’ve ever heard.”  The conversation was over for the time. Phew …

Recently as we were snuggling before I tucked her in, she began asking a question about passionate kissing.  I explained that this was a way people expressed love to each other and that God designed this passion to be experienced in marriage.  She quickly made the connection to “that disgusting thing we read a book about.”  Yep.  Well, she had enough time to ponder what we had read and had quite a few questions this time. After a lengthy discussion that was beginning to make me squirm (with questions like, “How do you get your underwear off in the dark?”), I concluded with the point that sex was a pleasurable gift from God intended for married couples.

In the dim light, I could see those cognitive wheels a-turning.  “So it’s gross but kinda’ feels good.  Like squishing mud between your toes.”  With supernatural constraint, I barely made it to our bedroom before howling with laughter!

I’m grateful for the open dialog I am able to have with my daughter while she is young.  She still thinks I’m smart and an expert on all of life’s issues.  I pray that our relationship will remain close and open, that I will always be someone she can ask those questions!

Julia DesCarpentrie

Julia DesCarpentrie is passionate about orphan care, adoption and fostering. Payday loans online. She has been blessed to live out God’s call on her life in those areas through her work with The CALL (Children of Arkansas Loved for a Lifetime), a foster care church initiative encouraging more Christian families to foster children in need. Julia has been an advocate for the fatherless for 10 years, as both a volunteer and also serving with Hope for Orphans before her work with The CALL. She is also an active volunteer in the community and has served on several community boards. She continues to minister to other mothers and foster/adoptive families through writing and speaking with MomLife Today. Julia is the mom of five children entrusted to her care through birth, adoption and fostering. She and Branden have been married for 16 years.