12 Minutes
The other day I heard that the average married couple spends 12 minutes a day talking to each other. Get out! Twelve minutes? The average woman spends more time than that fixing her hair every morning.
So, I sat down with pen and paper and thought about it—really thought about it. How much time do Hubby and I talk to each other every day? By my calculations of our conversation in the morning, through the day, and once he’s at home each night, it would be about one hour, 20 minutes on a regular work day. (Much more on the weekends, but let’s stick to work days.)
To me that actually seems kind of pitiful. There are 24 hours in a day and I only spend just over one of them in conversation with my husband? Now I’m really wondering what 80 minutes means. Maybe we need to work on this … do we need more conversation? Then again … he may not want more conversation; sometimes quiet is good too. Do our children see us interacting enough to realize we have a good marriage?
What do you think?
Ladies, get out pen and paper and add it up … how much time do you spend on an average week day talking to your husband? Let us know by leaving a comment.
Want to improve on that 12 minutes? Maybe participating in FamilyLife’s Love Dare challenge will help. When you sign up, each morning for 40 days you’ll receive an email with a love dare challenge to implement for your spouse. (If you haven’t seen the movie FIREPROOF, the Love Dare was a vital part of the turnaround in the marriage depicted in the movie.) If you have not taken part in the FamilyLife Love Dare challenge I encourage you to do so by checking out the FamilyLife website and signing up!
Now that I think about it, that sounds like some days we have. There are times my husband and I seem to sprint past each other to accomplish daily tasks and by the end of the day, I'm so zonked I'm not up for much talking. Sad, isn't it? Thanks for pointing that out. I'm going to start watching for days like that and try to improve on spending time together, even if it's silent. 🙂
I and husband talk less than 12 minutes, whether its a week day or weekend. I was kinda really talkative person but when I got to know that he doesnt like talking much, I became quiet. That was worse. Instead I should’ve made him like me, I became like him and that made us even far from each other. I don’t know what to talk, he just doesn’t like anything. And when we talk, (once ina month) we do it by texting each other, even if we’re sitting together. I know its strange but I think this way I’m respecting him, respecting the way he like to do things.