Intentional Intimacy

My friend and I were trying to figure our men out. We had each been married five years and each had two young children. We missed the spontaneous intimacy of our pre-children days early in our marriages. “He actually gets cranky if he hasn’t had sex in several days. It’s like he needs to have sex. And I’m so tired, sex Continue »

My Mature Mom Moment

  Rachel, my daughter with autism, adheres to routine. Her favorite activity is riding the school bus, which is not available on Saturdays. She didn’t get the memo. At 3 a.m., Rachel came into our room illuminating the way with her iPad. In her mind, it was time to get up for school (by the way, Continue »

Think Before You Say “No”

Why do marriage partners—even men—sometimes lose interest in sex? Personally, I think the main culprit is sheer exhaustion. Tiredness and lack of exercise kill the sex drive. We become so stressed out and bone-tired that all we want is time alone and time for blessed sleep. Incessant busyness is the plague of our contemporary lifestyle, and it is greatly damaging Continue »

Compassion

I think the year was around 1999. I received a call from a family who had been struggling with their recent adoption. Like all adoptive families, this family had been thrilled to bring home their new son. They had somehow raised all of the funds needed for their adoption and had sacrificed in many ways Continue »

The Martyr Mom

Yesterday I starred in my very own production of Martyr Mom. I’m the only one who does any work around here, I thought. The closing act of my mom drama was set in the bathroom. Rachel, our daughter with autism, had been diligently “cleaning.” Water dripped from both mirrors. From the nine-foot ceilings. From the wallpaper. Continue »